To every girl who complains about being single…
Being single isn’t a bad thing, it’s actually an extremely intelligent decision to make at this point in our lives and here is why:
1) At this stage in our lives we are given the time and resources to figure out who we are and who we want to be. Being in a relationship hinders this process because if you’re not trying to be whoever your partner wants you to be, you are trying to figure out who they are. Thus stunting your growth and any potential of knowing yourself before you are married with kids working a fulltime job.
2) Many people are in relationships because they don’t enjoy being alone. As a result they stay in unhealthy relationships or seek out a relationship as a means to fulfillment. You can’t use other people as an escape from yourself. You can’t truly love someone unless you love yourself first. You’re the only person that is responsible for your happiness, and the sooner you realize this the better off you’ll be.
3) Being single is fun, embrace it. When you’re single you aren’t obligated to worry about anyone else but yourself. This is the time to be selfish. Besides, you’re allowed to freely date multiple people at a time and figure out what you really want in a partner. So have fun with it and enjoy the opportunity to discover your preferences.
4) Finally, not “everyone” is in a relationship. You look at a few people and label them as “everyone”. Stop comparing your love story to someone else’s, they are in a relationship for a reason either to learn from them or because they’re incapable of being alone. So stop saying that you are going to be single forever because by saying so you are more than likely to turn that into the truth.
Ladies, take this time to figure out who you are and what makes you happy without being influenced by someone who you have been dating for years and trying to be whoever they want you to be. At this point in our lives we are all trying to figure out who we are and it’s hard to do that when you’re focusing on figuring someone else out first.