How much are you worth? Because after seeing countless close friends and family members suffer from both emotional and physical abuse from their partners that question always poses a place in my mind. It is said that we accept the love that we think that we deserve. If this is true, then why is it that so many deserve so little?
I have been guilty of it myself, placing my own values aside for “love”. But after finding myself doing so too many times and always being left less than before, I realized that the source of these circumstances was always myself. Despite how ever many pricks I choice to give second chances to, that choice was always mine. I always gave away my power to my partner. How could any relationship be of worth with one partner approaching it as less than the other? A perfect ten and solid eight don’t add up to twenty. And neither can a relationship with that ratio.
So what do you do in order to define the relationship that you deserve? You first access yourself, from the outside in. What qualities are you looking for in a partner and what qualities will be compatible with yourself? Create a list of 10 to 20 characteristics and attempt to make it as least superficial as possible. Beauty fades, character is forever. Now attempt to define at least five non-negotiables. Shortcomings that you couldn’t ever consider in another. Now embody all of the qualities that you desire in a partner. Because what comes to you always matches you, according to the basic laws of attraction.
By defining what you are looking for in another, you are also defining what you deserve. Don’t sell yourself short. We are all worthy of love, even you. So remind yourself that when fate unfolds and your face to face with the person you have personified. It is not too good to be true, it is true and you are too good to deserve anything less than amazing.
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