We have all dated one or fallen a victim to their confidence and nonchalant dispositions. Yes I am referring to what we call “womanizers”. But what if there was much more behind this facade that they all seem to effortlessly portray. What if the truth behind these womanizers wasn’t that they are heartless douche bags that reap the rewards of taking advantage of woman. What if these men act in accordance to their own yearning desires for unconditional love and are simply on the pursuit of finding it.
I can’t help but proclaim that despite their lack of compassion, these casanovas are quite shrewd in their quest for true love. It is said that men are visual creatures and know who the woman they are going to marry is within the first few moments of meeting her. In many instances a man knows when he has found the one much sooner than a woman does. With all of that being said, as much as we love to hate these skillful seducers for out smarting us into sleeping with them maybe there is something to appreciate in them after all.
First and foremost, their ability to emotionally detach themselves from their circumstances. Being a woman, I think we can all concur that we aren’t necessarily hardwired to do so. But by doing so men are both A) able to fulfill their sexual desires B) not become emotionally attached to said desires C) not let their emotions control their lives. I think that there is a lot to be said about this standard, as well as holds woman to an even higher standard. The fact that we are incapable of being completely emotionally detached forces us to value ourselves and our sexuality that much more. Men do not want to be with a woman who has been with everyone else as well, this says a lot about her character. Women are supposed to be the nurturing ones in a partnership and I think that our reach for equality may be the very reason that there are so many divorces filed today. Many woman have forgotten about their inherited roles as a woman.
Being a child of a broken marriage has taught me a lot about relationships. My father (who has asked for the love of his family every year for christmas) has shown me that above everything, unconditional love is his most prized possession. When my mother divorced him, his behavior afterwards became a prime example. He sought after the instant sexual gratifications given by many woman today, not because he was in love with them, but because he found fulfillment that he hadn’t found elsewhere. When he cheated on my mother, it wasn’t because he didn’t love her, it was because she was so consumed in being a brand new mother that none of her attention was directed towards him. He lacked the love and affection that his heart desired and so he sought it elsewhere.
When you think about it, men are quite simple. The two things that they desire most are affection and the knowledge that they are needed. Without these two things they feel incomplete and continue on their quest in order to fulfill these voids. So essentially this leaves us with two conclusions. That “womanizers” are just intelligent men waiting to find their Mrs. Right and until then pursuing Ms. Right Now. And that women are incapable of being completely emotionally detached, therefore emphasizing their natural need to value themselves enough to wait for Mr. Right. The inherited natural instincts of men and women continue to exist today even if the proper circumstances to play these roles cease to.
- Epitome of A Woman (daphnegan.wordpress.com)
- I love Her (tenesiateriann.wordpress.com)
- Its a woman eat woman world. (tuventytuventy.wordpress.com)