Many women don’t understand the dynamics of dating, and as a result wind up facing rejection first hand or settling for second best. Dating is not complicated, in fact it is quite simple. First comes chemistry, than comes compatibility, than comes commitment…and a baby carriage? Well let’s hope not at least. The first mistake I see so many women make is that they do not know exactly what their looking for in a man much less a relationship. If you don’t know what you want how are you ever supposed to get it? Being assertive is sexy, being oblivious isn’t. So right now, if you don’t already know, decide. What qualities are you looking for in a future partner? Are you looking for a relationship or just a mere dalliance?
Once you know what you’re working with, you can understand the fundamentals of dating. There are two components that lead to commitment, chemistry and compatibility. Chemistry is the level of attraction between two people that initiates initial communication. It’s a feeling of intrigue that can’t really be given an explanation, it’s either there or it isn’t. When you have good chemistry with someone you are attracted to one another on a physical, intellectual and emotional level. Have you ever found a man attractive that one of your girlfriends didn’t? That’s chemistry. If two people have strong chemistry for one another they begin dating in order to identify whether or not they are compatible.
When two people are compatible for each other they typically share the same ideals of what they are looking for in a relationship. Compatibility begins with appearances like most things. If a man possesses the particular appearance that you’re attracted to, and you in addition have the image that he is generally enticed by than the two of you are compatible. With that being said, not every man you find attractive is going to be attracted to you and vice versa. Dating would become a lot more complicated than it already is if that were the case. In addition to physical appearance, many other factors are considered when it comes to whether or not you and the object of your eye are compatible for one another. Personality, lifestyle, value system, profession and goals are also considered to be key ingredients to the compatibility crock pot.
Now that you have been introduced to the couple (chemistry and compatibility) that lead to commitment, you should be able to make better choices when it comes to dating. Furthermore, you should never again take rejection personally. Just the way that you cannot control who you do and do not have chemistry with, neither can a man. And if you aren’t compatible with someone you are seeing, take it as a compliment that he isn’t wasting your time and move on. There are plenty of men that will compliment you, but they can’t all fill that role or else you will have an even harder choice choosing who you want to make a commitment to.
So now that you understand the heart of the matter you should be able to date and handle rejection like a true Sassanista.
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